WHEN LOVING YOU IS KILLING ME.

"I will love you till infinity,am nothing without you, your my all in all,my missing piece, the melody in  my song;his words are engraved in my soul ."said Becky as she looked at  the picture of Bill and her  during valentine's day while her left hand  was scarred in a tattoo undefined from  the burns of an iron machine induced by Bill.

Love is beautiful,its the esense of life ,we don't find it  only  in people _  but all of nature ,our dreams  and extra. Its like a flower that doesn't waver ,like the ocean that's always blue and the birds that merry in the morning. Honestly hold it tight if you found it, treasure it like a priceless jewel.

"We met as first year students during administration day,it was love at first sight with the expectancy of a life time.The way he spoke to me,treated me, financially supported me, lavished me ,worried for me! ,gosh it was the fairy tale of every lady who watched Cinderella tale. Bill he was, my prince charming than charm and magical than magic.

Two semesters found us still dancing in our paradise of love,love and love. I had  no friends anymore ,no private life and this got me worried.I was stuck with Bill every where ,all time and every day.My slightest moves to make friends ,go out  and do anything without him became my worst nightmare.(the burn on my hand way a product of such)

People say jealousy is love but no it's not.Jealously is born out of attachment and the desire to posses someone and keep them all to yourself.Bill began to disrespect me , resent me,blame pinning me  for all, beating me  and threatened me if I dared  concede for a breaking up."

 

" It dawned on me that our relationship was toxic. I broke my communication with Bill  (it was not easy) and sought for help where possible to cure  this predicament. After reporting Bill to the authorities he couldn't harm me no more, he got stuck in his drug addiction and fatefully died of overdosing himself." narrated Becky as she wiped her tears.

Becky,my friend like many others is a victim of toxic relationships.She never wanted it ;but I admire her brave move,

the  move to let go,the move to seek help,the move  to find happiness.

 This story is not just on the walls in campuses but everywhere even in our families at home.once you notice those red flags  do something.

American author Bryant McGill said,"Escaping a toxic relationship can feel like breaking off a piece of you  heart. Leaving is never easy, but sometimes it is necessary to save yourself and others from dying inside."

Compiled by Lucy njeri njoki, Technical University of Mombasa.